Happily Ever After?

I have this tendency to want everyone to get along, to be happy and that there be little to no conflict. It just makes me uncomfortable. Of course, I know that this is impossible. It’s inevitable that someone will offend or upset another, a fight/argument ensues, friendships/relationships break up, etc.
As I was watching tons of TV and movies this past weekend, I realized that I tend to write that same way–idealistically.  In film/tv/theatre (and even in life in general), things don’t always make sense, things don’t always end up the way you think they should. But isn’t that what makes them so good?
For example, in Sex and the City (the first movie), Samantha (of all people) has been in a monogamous relationship for 5 years. Smith (her boyfriend) is a GREAT guy, and Samantha is faithful to him. But when his hectic work schedule pulls him away, she misses out on sex—her TRUE love. In order to stop herself from cheating, she eats. Everytime she gets “the urge”, she eats as a substitute. After talking with her friends, it appears that she feels she is losing sight of who she is; she is lost inside the relationship, and she is unhappy.  She rationalizes that since Smith stayed with her through cancer/chemo that she should be able to stay with him through this point in their lives. Inevitably, she leaves him.
Initially, I thought, “Yeah, she should stay with him. It’s just a rough patch. They love each other and they’ll make it through.” But after thinking about it some more I thought about who Samantha “is”.  As sad as it was for her to leave Smith, it actually made sense–for her. Were it another character, it may have made sense for them to stay with Smith.
I have to work on that in my writing. I have to be comfortable with putting my characters in uncomfortable situations. Everyone can’t always end up happily ever after.

Writer’s Spotlight Wednesday (WSW): Melissa Abramovitz

It’s that time again! WRITER’S SPOTLIGHT WEDNESDAY! This month’s WSW highlights:

Melissa Abramovitz

Melissa Abramovitz

“I love to write.”

 

Melissa Abramovitz has been a freelance writer for over 25 years and specializes in writing nonfiction magazine articles and books for all age groups. She is the author of hundreds of magazine articles, more than 30 educational books for children and teenagers, numerous poems and short stories, and several children’s picture books. Her book for writers, A Treasure Trove of Opportunity: How to Write and Sell Articles for Children’s Magazines, has been widely acclaimed since its publication in 2012. She is a graduate of The Institute of Children’s Literature and a member of the Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators (SCBWI) and The Working Writer’s Club.

I am excited to feature Melissa for this month’s WSW. Here’s what she had to share with us:

Q:           Why do you write?

A:            I write for several reasons. One is because I love to write. Two – most of my work is educational nonfiction, and I find it very rewarding to know that I’m making a tiny positive difference in the world by contributing to young peoples’ education and piquing their interest in the world around them. Three – I can’t think of a more perfect job for me!

 

Q:           Where do you write and why?

A:            I write in my home office. I have everything I need here, from my computer to all the files and notebooks I use in my writing. Of course, I often bring library books for reference home when needed, and sometimes I’ll bring the files I’m working on with me when I go out of town. But mostly, it’s me and my office. Fortunately, I have a very comfortable office chair.

Q:           What are your current/upcoming projects?

A:            Right now I’m working on an educational book about biotechnology for teenagers. I’m also putting together a couple of magazine article queries that will hopefully result in assignments. And I’m doing some marketing of my book for writers, “A Treasure Trove of Opportunity: How to Write and Sell Articles for Children’s Magazines” (E and E Publishing 2012) and my children’s picture book “ABCs of Health and Safety” (Guardian Angel Publishing 2012). When I have a little extra time, I’ve also been querying agents in hopes of getting an agent to market a novel I finally finished. I really need to devote more time to this, but my assignments come first and my search for an agent keeps getting pushed to the back burner.

Treasure

Q:           What is your favorite word or phrase, and why?

A:            My favorite phrase comes from the book of Ecclesiastes: “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven.” This bit of wisdom has helped me get through countless challenges in my professional and personal lives, including the painful, ego-busting rejections that all writers receive.

Q:           What tips do you have for aspiring writers?

A:            I believe it’s really important for aspiring writers to think and act in a professional manner. Actually, this applies to aspiring writers who want to write professionally. Some aspiring writers just want to write for fun, and that’s okay too! But if you want to write professionally, be professional. Educate yourself about the technicalities such as impeccable grammar and proper manuscript formatting. Do the required market research, proofreading, and following a publication’s writer guidelines. Treat editors and others with whom you interact respectfully and professionally. Would you hire a home remodeling contractor who knew nothing about designing a kitchen or who did sloppy work or didn’t show up when promised? I wouldn’t. I would only hire a professional who behaved like a professional. If you want people to hire you as a writer, act like a professional writer.

Thank you Melissa for letting me feature you this month!

Visit Melissa’s website at: www.melissaabramovitz.com

GIVEAWAY! GIVEAWAY! GIVEAWAY!

Melissa has graciously offered to give away a free copy of her picture book, ABC’s of Health and Safety. “In this picture book, delightful rhymes take kids on an A-Z journey through everyday health and safety habits. From active aerobics to heart-healthy-habits to zoo zone zeal, this ABC book introduces health and safety basics in a fun way.”-Melissa Abramovitz

To enter for a chance to win, leave a comment below. Your name will be entered into the drawing. You can comment from now until Friday, November 15, 2013 at 5PM CST. We will announce the lucky winner on Monday.

Thanks for stopping by!

Stay tuned for next month’s WSW: Wednesday, December 11, 2013.

November 2013 Movie Releases

What’s showing in movie theaters this month? Which of this month’s movies have you already seen and which are you looking forward to seeing?

 

My personal top 3 this month (that I want to see) are:

1. Free Birds- I love Thanksgiving, but sometimes it doesn’t get the respect and love it needs, what with being the middle child and all (between Halloween and Christmas). I get excited about (the far and few between) Thanksgiving movies.

 

2. Best Man Holiday- Did you see the first one? Enough said. This one is a must see for me. Lots of eye candy too. 😉

 

3. Delivery Man- This looks like it will be a pretty funny film. I love to laugh.

 

Check out the full list of this month’s nationwide movie releases:

http://www.examiner.com/list/what-to-watch-november-2013-movie-releases

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